When you want to know
Not how bad it sounds when you’re venting to your best friend.
Not how exciting it felt when you first met.
Not who explained it better in the last argument.
But, how things really are
Here’s how that works:
Get a clear baseline
See what is actually happening in your relationship right now.
Focus on one pressure point
Run a monthly targeted assessment so you improve one high-impact variable at a time.
Track real follow-through
Measure behavior change over time instead of relying on memory.
Your Relationship Check-up
Step one: get a comprehensive baseline.
Measure everything that goes into your relationship and get an overall score.
The Relationship Reality Scan shows you:
- • Where the workload is uneven — visible and invisible
- • Whether one of you is checking out
- • Which responsibilities are piling up — and who they’re falling on
- • What’s actually happening in your sex life
- • How much external stress is amplifying things
- • A prioritized plan for what to fix first
Follow-up with periodic check-ups to track your overall relationship health over time.
Monthly Relationship Scans
You don’t try to fix everything at once.
Each month, SparkTheory runs a focused assessment on one high-impact pressure point so you can move one real variable at a time.
You’ll see:
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Invisible labor and effort balance
Where daily planning, emotional load, and follow-through are uneven.
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Intimacy and desire mismatch
What is creating distance, avoidance, or pressure around closeness.
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Recurring conflict loops
The exact patterns that keep triggering the same unresolved fights.
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Disengagement and resentment risk
Where disconnection is building and what predicts whether it worsens.
Think of it as an MRI for one relationship pressure point at a time.
With SparkTheory, you see not only how that area is functioning right now — but with tracking and repeated assessments — whether the changes you make actually move the needle and stick.
The Tracker. Did that change actually work?
Insight doesn’t reduce anger.
Follow-through does.
SparkCount tracks:
- • What you agreed to do
- • How much actually got done
- • What got in the way
- • Whether tension decreased or stayed the same
Not intentions. Outcomes.
You can see whether effort shifted — or just the conversation did.
Context Matters
Comparison only helps when it is grounded in reality.
We show you how your relationship compares to couples in similar circumstances — not some idealized version of love.
You’re not being compared to a curated beach photo on Instagram — where, for all you know, they were fighting in the Uber five minutes earlier.
You’re compared to couples under similar:
- Career pressure
- Parenting load
- Relationship duration
- Stress levels
If you’re the competitive type, you’ll know exactly where you stand — and what it would take to move up.
How We’re Different
SparkTheory doesn’t replace therapy.
It replaces ambiguity.
Unlike therapy:
- • You’re not relying on memory alone.
- • You see measurable change over time.
- • What worked and didn’t work and who did and didn’t do what is literally documented and at your fingertips
- • You have droves of research and crowd-sourced documented reference points to point to — not just one expert’s opinion
Unlike most relationship apps:
- • You’re not just nudged to “share your feelings.”
- • You log what actually happened.
- • Progress is tracked, not assumed.
Built for High-Pressure Relationships
- Dual careers.
- Constant distraction.
- Uneven labor.
- Low bandwidth.
Real life.
When everything else in life demands performance, your relationship shouldn’t be the only thing you refuse to measure.